Almost 40 years ago I started a weekend program called Joyful Again! for widowers and widows. It has reached out to thousands of people in Chicagoland and around the country.
It is so difficult for a person who loses a loved one through death to go through the 5 Stages of Grief alone: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance.
After the witness talks on the weekend the widowed gather in small groups to share and to heal after their terrible loss. It is so important to know and especially to feel that you are not alone. The participants reach out and help one another through their loss.
God sent a special 4-year old angel named Nora Wood to Dan Peterson after he lost his wife of many years. Little Nora demanded a hug from Dan at the end of the canned vegetable aisle at Publix. She got her hug and Dan found an angel in Nora and a whole lot more…..
Fr. Med’s Ending:
Grief never ends. But it is not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness or a lack of faith.
Grief is the price of love.
Mary will live forever in Dan’s broken heart. What Dan is going through spiritually and emotionally is like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly. It still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn how to dance with the limp.
We never get over our losses. Like Dan, we absorb them and they carve us into different and often kinder people. But a question still remains for me: “Why does it take just a few seconds
to say Hello and forever to say Goodbye?”