{"id":2337,"date":"2019-01-02T05:00:00","date_gmt":"2019-01-02T10:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/?p=2337"},"modified":"2019-01-01T21:31:20","modified_gmt":"2019-01-02T02:31:20","slug":"5-things-to-do-if-grandma-grandpa-are-spoiling-your-kids","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/5-things-to-do-if-grandma-grandpa-are-spoiling-your-kids\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Things to Do If Grandma &#038; Grandpa Are Spoiling Your Kids"},"content":{"rendered":"<p dir=\"auto\"><u><\/u><\/p>\n<div class=\"custom-html-block\"><iframe src=\"https:\/\/www.podbean.com\/media\/player\/idqph-a33303?from=yiiadmin&amp;download=1&amp;version=1\" data-link=\"https:\/\/www.podbean.com\/media\/player\/idqph-a33303?from=yiiadmin&amp;download=1&amp;version=1\" height=\"122\" width=\"100%\" frameborder=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" data-name=\"pb-iframe-player\"><\/iframe><\/div>\n<p dir=\"auto\"><strong><u>Every Christmas season I wind up talking to parents who tell me that their folks came over with very expensive gifts for their kids<\/u>.<\/strong> And this happens a few times during the year as well. The grandparents mean well and want to show the love they have for their grandchildren. <strong>But such an expensive watch, bracelet, computer game or item of clothing goes against what the parents are trying to teach their children.<\/strong> Some parents have told me that they have instructed the grandparents to <em>\u201cgo easy\u201d<\/em> with the gift-giving, but to no avail. <\/p>\n<p dir=\"auto\"><strong><u>Here are 5 things that you can do<\/u>:<\/strong>\t<\/p>\n<p dir=\"auto\"><strong>1.\tAs parents, sincerely pray over the matter before you sit and talk with the grandparents. Pray that the Lord will calm your emotions as you discuss the matter.<\/strong> <em><u>A God-Touch<\/u><\/em>. <em>Pray to understand where <strong>they<\/strong> are coming from. <\/em>Maybe they grew up in a lower-income home or were not able to give you the kind of gifts that they wanted to give. Maybe they are trying to compensate. <em>Your parents may be craving love and think that giving such expensive gifts will provide it. <\/em>We all want to feel loved, appreciated and needed. <\/p>\n<p dir=\"auto\"><strong>2.\tSchedule a time and a place away from your children where you can have a serious discussion.<\/strong> Let your parents know how much you love and appreciate them. <u>Then share with them some of the <strong>values and the standards <\/strong>you are using to raise your children<\/u>: <em>the importance and the value of people and not things.<\/em> Share with them the reasons why you want your children to not be in competition with what their friends have. <u>Explain <strong>the standard of possessions<\/strong> you are trying to set for your children and invite them to participate in it.<\/u> Don\u2019t be afraid to lovingly share an incident or two where their gift did not meet your standard. <strong><em>Share how you felt.<\/em><\/strong> Feelings are neither right or wrong, they just are. <\/p>\n<p dir=\"auto\"><strong>3.\tPresent your parents with the idea of a savings account for their grandchildren. <\/strong>Then when their grandchildren need what meets the family standard, they can share their appreciation for what their grandparents have given them. You can discuss a high school or a college fund with them.  <\/p>\n<p dir=\"auto\"><strong>4.\tYou can also discuss with your parents a limit on the number and the amount of their gifts. <\/strong>Tell them that you would like to know about their gifts, since some might be <em>\u201coff limits\u201d<\/em> to the standards you are using. <em>This way they still have the pleasure of gift-giving. <br \/><\/em><br \/><strong>5.\tYou can suggest that your kids appreciate most of all their \u201cpresence\u201d more than their gift \u201c<u>presents<\/u>.\u201d <\/strong>One grandmother I know sends <u>a short note<\/u> to each of her grandkids every week or two, telling them that she is thinking about them, praying for their success in a test or an upcoming game, and that she loves them. <u>She puts $2.00 in the envelope so they can buy candy or juice<\/u>. I find her grandkids to be well-balanced, kind, caring and loving individuals as they mature and grow.  <\/p>\n<p dir=\"auto\">As someone said: <strong><em>\u201cChildren are often spoiled because <br \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t<u>No one will spank Grandma or Grandpa<\/u>!\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Every Christmas season I wind up talking to parents who tell me that their folks came over with very expensive gifts for their kids. And this happens a few times during the year as well. The grandparents mean well and want to show the love they have for their grandchildren. But such an expensive watch, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":2362,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"qubely_global_settings":"","qubely_interactions":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"qubely_featured_image_url":{"full":["https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/1546396191_featured.png",150,150,false],"landscape":["https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/1546396191_featured.png",150,150,false],"portraits":["https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/1546396191_featured.png",150,150,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/1546396191_featured.png",150,150,false],"medium":["https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/1546396191_featured.png",150,150,false],"medium_large":["https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/1546396191_featured.png",150,150,false],"large":["https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/1546396191_featured.png",150,150,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/1546396191_featured.png",150,150,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/1546396191_featured.png",150,150,false],"ocean-thumb-m":["https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/1546396191_featured.png",150,150,false],"ocean-thumb-ml":["https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/1546396191_featured.png",150,150,false],"ocean-thumb-l":["https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/1546396191_featured.png",150,150,false],"qubely_landscape":["https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/1546396191_featured.png",150,150,false],"qubely_portrait":["https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/1546396191_featured.png",150,150,false],"qubely_thumbnail":["https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/1546396191_featured.png",100,100,false],"rpwe-thumbnail":["https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/1546396191_featured-45x45.png",45,45,true]},"qubely_author":{"display_name":"Medard Laz","author_link":"https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/author\/medlaz\/"},"qubely_comment":0,"qubely_category":"<a href=\"https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/category\/daily-treats\/\" rel=\"category tag\">Daily Treats<\/a>","qubely_excerpt":"Every Christmas season I wind up talking to parents who tell me that their folks came over with very expensive gifts for their kids. And this happens a few times during the year as well. The grandparents mean well and want to show the love they have for their grandchildren. But such an expensive watch,&hellip;","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2337"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2337"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2337\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2362"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2337"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2337"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.treatsforthesoul.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2337"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}